How to Stop Feeling Powerless in Your Closet

A love letter about remembering your closet isn’t the enemy, it’s your playground.

DEAR BESTIE,
I often hear you and other friends say you feel powerless, helpless, or lost in your closet. You’ve told me you keep buying things but still feel like you have nothing to wear. I remember one time you said, “I actually have a lot of clothes, but it just feels so overwhelming.”

Please don’t worry, you’re not alone in feeling this way. YOU ARE THE MAJORITY. It sucks that it’s the majority, but hey, at least you’re not alone. Haha.

I want to share something that totally helped me, and that’s why I’m writing to you today. When I changed how I viewed my closet, EVERYTHING changed. What do I mean?

OK, so remember when we were little and had that dress-up box? (Yes, we’ve known each other that long!) When we put on those outfits: doctor, firefighter, waitress, princess, or red carpet star…we felt POWERFUL. We felt on top of the world!

That dress-up box was magic. We weren’t scared to try new combinations, be silly, and grab the pieces that energetically called out to us. We could transform ourselves into whoever we wanted and when we did, we RULED the world. Remember that feeling?

Well, guess what? That magic box never left, it’s still right in front of you. Now, it’s called your closet.

Over the years, the magic got a little blurry, but it never disappeared… it’s still in your eyes and your heart. Your closet still has the power to help you FEEL how you want and BE who you want. It’s begging you to play and it’s saying, “I’m even bigger and better than before. Let’s have fun! Don’t take me so seriously!”

The thing is, society trained us to be insecure so you stopped dressing for yourself and started dressing for others.

When you get dressed, you told me you tend to think:
• Is this in style?
• I can’t wear this, it’s too wild
• What will people think?
… all of these thoughts are thinking of others when you get dressed.

But if you can start playing again, you’ll be asking yourself:
• Do I like this?
• Does this make me feel good?
• What if I tried this unexpected combo? Does it reflect who I am?

WHEN YOU TRULY EMBRACE PLAY, YOU HOLD ALL THE POWER.

Why?

Because when you play in your closet and wear something you created, you’re no longer held captive by made-up rules and societal pressures. You’re saying, “F-you and I won’t shrink to fit in your box.” … Therefore the ball is in your court now, and you have your power back.

Now, I know you and you’re probably thinking, “This sounds scary. Who am I to do this?” And those insecurities pop up because you’re afraid people will look at you funny. I get it…

But Bestie I want you to remember a very important thing: People are not looking or judging you as much as you think they are. Most people are too worried about themselves to focus on what you’re wearing. And even if someone does have a negative comment, that’s a THEM thing, not a YOU thing.

So wear what you want. Start looking at your closet as a dress-up box, not a place of rules, trends, and limitations.

You got this!

xoxo, your fashion bestie - Casey

This full letter is written from my heart (not AI)

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